“No matter whom you are or what you do, the ground is always shaky. And, the really good news is that shaky ground is fertile ground for spiritual growth and awakening.” – Pema Chödrön
Sometimes I feel like I’ll never outgrow the back and forth between lightness and darkness. Sometimes it feels like just as I’m gaining traction, something comes and pulls me backwards.
I was feeling really down about this lately. About the fact that just as I feel the sun shine on my face, a cloud always seems to come and overtake the shining rays.
In instances where I feel like I’m at a standstillI, I have to remind myself of two important things:
- These moments are opportunities.
- I’m human.
When I say these moments are opportunities, I mean that I’m being given the chance to stand up for myself. To care for myself. To shower myself with love. To empower myself to overcome my fears and negative habits. To take charge and go after what I deserve.
The beautiful thing is, every time I rise up from one of these clouded moments, I get a little bit stronger. I gain more confidence in myself. I prove to myself that I can rise above. I cultivate a deeper level of love for myself.
I then remind myself that I’m human. Everyone goes through these ups and downs. Some more than others, maybe, but nobody experiences sun 365 days a year. To be human is to experience the dark and the light. To feel hopeful and powerful one day and scared and vulnerable the next.
Clouds will continue to come, giving us the chance to deepen our trust and love for ourselves.
But, as we rise above each moment, and prove that we’re not backing down, the clouds will start to visit less and less. They will come only for days, and then only moments.
Next time you find yourself getting down on yourself, wondering why an earth you can’t just get over this already or do that already, try something different. Instead of pressuring yourself and criticizing yourself, try comforting and loving yourself.
In these periods of unrest, we need more love, not less.